Will I ever find a guy who actually loves me and doesn't use me?

[areyoucomprehending]

All the guys that I get interested in seems to only love me with lust, so no relationship just sex. but I don't let them how do I find a guy that will love me?

I meant to say, they tell me, thta they would like to bang me but not for a relationship and no I have never let a guy do that.

I'm 16 by the way

[auftrit196]

If you're just starting out in a relationship about the last thing you should be hearing from a guy is anything about "banging" or any other kind of plans for sex. That's for later on in the relationship.

If this is the kind of stuff you are hearing before and at the beginning then you need to look somewhere else for your guy because these kind of guys you're hearing that from are not what you are looking for.

You need to raise your standards. You can do better and you deserve better.

Good luck

[YezzieYas]

One day, you definitely will.

However, you probably don't see him coming by now but someday you will find him. I believe in the saying that 'Love comes to you when least expected'. Yes, it's very true actually so please don't worry about it too much. Of course you can't help but feel a bit void about it to think that there's probably no one to love you but who cares?

You've always got family (usually we, humans, don't see them as the ones who love us unconditionally but it's really true actually) and friends! Sometimes, as a girl, you don't need a man to feel good about yourself. So, dear, I suggest that you don't worry about it now and focus onto other better and greater things in life. =)

[roadrunner534]

It takes time to get to know someone. A lot of guys are impatient. You sound like you really want a meaningful realtionship, something that I have been looking for too. I have written to many on dating sites, someone once said it is a numbers game, you meet many only to find one that is right for you. You can always write to me, and we can discuss it more.

[Kristin838]

Try a Match.com site or something. My father met my step on there, they are now married. Great Site!

[Smylee]

I agree with Yezzie...love comes when you least expect it. My advice to you would be not to try so hard to find someone or worry so much about it either, just enjoy life, get out and do things, hang out with friends, just be you and do things you enjoy doing and someday you'll find someone. Love works in very mysterious ways...in fact I met my current boyfriend when I least expected to find someone. I had just broken up with someone 3 months before I ran into him. We already knew each other from high school but hadn't seen each other for years. I went out with some friends one night and he was at the same place we went to and he was by himself so I invited him over to our table. I didn't think much of it then, he was just a friend I ran into but I was talking to my sister about that night and she noticed the way I was talking about him and how I kept mentioning him, I had fallen for him. We started talking after that and the rest is history. I found love when I least expected to find it. Trust me, I thought I was going to be alone forever, I mean I always thought who's going to want me? A single mother that barely makes enough money to pay the bills? But I found someone....it may not happen when you want it to but it will happen. Just hang in there girl, you're young you've got plenty of time to find someone :)