What do you think was suggested by this? (Mother's Day)?

[STBX]

Just curious I'm in the process of a divorce it is almost final- thank god!! Just want to know how to handle this situation. My STBX's attorney is an asshole its to be expected (birds of a feather) just like my STBX. My attorney submitted a consent order to his attorney 3 weeks ago and his attorney would not respond or reply to my attorneys phone calls or the order for 3 weeks. When do they reply this Friday just last business day before mother's day? Although my STBX agreeded to the majority of my requests should I be offended What would you think about this spell it out....please.. Thanx

Let me clarify my question because alot of assumptions were made. I'm happily in another relationship with a great supportive man and I emotionally divorced my STBX years ago so there is no defection on my attorney I'm glad the divorce will be final. A divorce party is already planned. My issue and reason for the yahoo question was the "uncanny timing." Was this an intentionally slight right before mother's day? If so explain spell it out.

Yes my STBX and I have a child together.

2 Westies thank you and same to you! Personally I pick your answer as the best!



This answer was helpful also and explained the why since I was the Walk Away Spouse and still am in a hurry to get a divorce and he keeps delaying it never thought there was an emotional tie to the delays.Clear as a bell now.

-Thanks for taking the time out to answer and Happy Mom Day to all! =)



Emotional Divorce:

http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/copingandemotionalissue/f/emotionaldivorc.htm

[valerie_891809]

huh?

[puk]

hey throw a party when its done. my STBX has accepted the financial stuff but not the parenting arrangements. she has also told me that after leaving me for my best mate she is about to marry him.... not gonna happen til the agreement re kids is signed sealed and delivered.

let lawyers be lawyers. do you have a sense that your being blocked for the purposes of financial punishment????? then see your lawyer with that as a question. laws in australia prevent this occurring now.courts look down on it really badly to the person punishing the other

[stupendous952]

I assume by this, the fact that it bothers you so much, that you have children with this man.

Not having been there, I can only speak as to how I feel about it. It seems to me that your emotions will and are going through an emotional roller coaster. What started out as your dream life and your future has now eroded into hatred, disgust, and contempt.

You worry about the future, as you concern yourself with the present. You see the meter running on attorney fees, on both sides, and find it frustrating that the process takes so long. Welcome to the world of attorneys' and their ability to manipulate earnings out of the situation at hand.

My suggestion would be to try to find some inner peace. To be able to realize that it was not your fault that the marriage failed, that you gave all you had to give to make it work. Although you feel a loss, take pride in the fact of who you are. Your life has a better time ahead, move toward that, and do so in a positive fashion.

As you deflect some of your frustration on the attorney, that is a good thing. After all, this man for whom you now have great disdain is also the father of your children.

Spend Mother's Day either with your own mother, or by donating some time to a shelter for battered women. God bless.

[2Westies498]

It's doesn't matter, you've moved on. Save your energy for more important things. Happy Mother's Day.