Should i try to get back with her or not?? GIRLS!!!?

[Nick]

Alrght, so my girlfriend broke up with me about 4 weeks ago. she never told me all the reasons, but i think i know now i've finally figured it out! she was upset because i got mad at her for hanging out with her friends but i really didn't get mad at that, it's just that she spent way more time with them than me, and after awhile i missed her and it made me mad. also, she said we don't get to talk very much, but that was mostly because she always said she couldn't. and there's one thing i'm not sure about, it's that when we broke up she told me that she needed me during her moms divorce, and i wasn't there. well i tried to explain to her that i wanted to be and i tried to be, but i really didn' t know how to take it either and i was sorry. she broke up with me over the summer for only a day and she said that it wasn't my fault and that she just needed to understand some things. so i tod her i understood and the next morning she had me come to her house and she told me that she was sorry and she just wanted to be with me. so we got back together until our recent break up. i know that she still loves me. she told me she did, and she wanted me to know it. we don't talk very much anymore, but if we do she almost stares at me and doesn't take her eyes off. and when we were dating, i told her i loved it when she curled her hair and she didn't do it very often. now that we've broken up, she comes to school every other day with her hair curled. what is that?? i know sometime she'll realize what she let go of. i loved her so much, and ill bet no other guy will respect her and love her as i do. the main question i have, is she broke up with me the first time and came back to me, this time she didn't so is it because she thinks i'm supposed to, or should i just give her time? also, how can i show her that i'm there for her with her situation with her mom without over doing it? and one thing we both kind of agreed on is that we should try to be friends first, so how do i do that? thank you!!!

[Tabitha551]

think back to when you two first met.
just carry on conversations, without bringing up the fact that you two broke up, because that might piss her off, and make her not want to talk to you as much.
don't let her know that you're jealous right away; just vent somehow, without her knowing, if that makes sense.
but if you just back off, just a little bit, and carry on a nice conversation, i'm sure things will be okay.
if it was real, it'll happen again.
if it wasn't, it won't.


remember, there will always be better.
right now, you're hung over her, and it may not seem like there is, but trust me, in time you may find someone who meets your needs better than she did.

[bumblethruthejungle350]

I don't know, sounds to me that she wants more attention...from other guys and from you...I'd let her come to you..I bet you the second you pull away a bit and start paying other girls attention she'll be chasing you like a greyhound chases a rabbit round a race track...maybe she just didn't feel like she was getting enough from you...so it's two scenarios really, only you can judge what will work for you....
Sometimes insecurity can make us finish with someone as we're not getting enough attention it doesn't massage the ego and make that person feel they have the upper hand an confidence in a relationship, ot me that's not healthy...

Hope that helped to provoke some thoughts around the situation - good luck!

[tatskie951]

looks like she's really confused, and needs a lot of your patience. i agree on giving her much time to think things over, but don't put too much distance between you two. if you want her back, try to be with her whenever she needs you, offer your help in a friendly manner. she'll realize in time that you deserve a better treatment from her. but if she still takes you for granted though you're giving her the attention she needs, better let go of her and do something more worth the while.

[Blackmail312]

Give her time, she'll realize sooner or l8ter that she likes u and she'll try to get u back. BUt teht doesn't mean that u shouldn't talk with her. And if ur saying she stares at u she definitley still like u. so give it time.