Should I tell him about the abortion?

by **lvmai** on Sat Oct 24, 2009 1:10 am

I just found out that I'm 5 weeks pregnant with a guy that I slept 5 weeks ago so it wad nothing, I am getting and abortion in 4 days but the problem is I have been dating this guy for 3 weeks and I was wondering if i should tell him, mind you I don't wanna lose him.

What should I do?

It's not my boyfriends baby

I already told the father n he doesn't want it. So of cause I've told him I just wanna know if I should tell my new boyfriend. Can't u ppl read the question

by **Suzydue1310761** on Sat Oct 24, 2009 1:14 am

it was nothing? well, obviously it was something.
3 weeks is a long time, sounds serious. you should tell him.
get on birth control so you dont have to do it again.

by **Pretentia249** on Sat Oct 24, 2009 1:15 am

Tell him, you may find that you need someone to talk to afterwards, and he would be the ideal person as your partner.

by **972652** on Sat Oct 24, 2009 1:15 am

If you know it won't get out - then keep it to yourself.
All it will do is cause him unnecessary pain.

But if you've told someone that might tell others, then you need to be honest. It's better to hear it from you than someone he barely knows..

by **Cynthia416** on Sat Oct 24, 2009 1:15 am

If you're going to do it regardless of whether or not he wants you to keep it, don't tell him. The relationship is very young, and I just asked my husband, and he said if this were to happen to him, so early on into a relationship, and the girl was going to get an abortion on matter what.. he wouldn't want to know.

If you might keep it, based on his opinion, then let him know.

by **DueJan10thwith1Itsagirl** on Sat Oct 24, 2009 1:16 am

you should tell him and ask him if hes ready to raise his child. It would be rude of you to just get an abortion with out his permission, its his child to.

by **Nicole420** on Sat Oct 24, 2009 1:17 am

it kinda depends on his stance on abortion. if u see marriage in the future it'd be bad if he found out later on. but if it'll never be that serious there's no point in upsetting him either. but then he does have the right to know (morally) but then you have the right to do as you wish. abortion is a tough decision, just make sure that's what you really want b/c once its done there is no going back. you could regret that for the rest of your life, every child you see. but in some cases its the best thing. if he's the one, i'd say he should know. otherwise, i dont know either

by **Nikki302853** on Sat Oct 24, 2009 1:17 am

Of course you should. The key to any relationship is honesty. Granted I'm not for the whole abortion thing but that's your choice sweetie. Just make sure you're honest with him and he'll respect you alot more for it. Good luck!

by **melaine010903** on Sat Oct 24, 2009 1:18 am

You're gonna end up taking the chance of losing him no matter what you do, so you might as well tell him now. If you wait and he finds out later, you just might lose him at that point as much as if you were to tell him now. Bite the bullet and be honest. A relationship filled with lies is always set up to fail. Best of luck.

by **Mommy2bedue05292010** on Sat Oct 24, 2009 1:18 am

just a miscarriage.. thats exactly what i would say...

Should I tell him about the abortion?