questions on self harm and mental health?

by **cherylwishing4ababy** on Mon Oct 19, 2009 1:00 pm

ok here is the story no nasty answers please.

saturday my hubby got mortal drunk started arguing with my because i self harm ( he used to do this a long time ago ) he started calling me names because i use disposable razors to self harm he said they were for soft people ( i use them because they are cheep) he said you should use stuff like Gillette razors . then blew is top with me saying that i don't cut deep enough to go through the veins , i said no as am now pregnant this hurt me so much on the way he was acting towards me . then started saying there are rules and things you should obey when self harming . after that he smashed open a razor and demanded me to cut my self in front of him i was almost crying at this Point as he already made me feel more ashamed of my self .

but i don't think there is rules? i self harmed to get my mental pain away from when i had a still birth .

what would you do if this happend to you?

no nasty remarks please thank you x

i have not cut my self since i found out am pregnant as i told my husband our baby is important to me .. also i was not drinking he was hun

by **moi479** on Mon Oct 19, 2009 1:03 pm

by **emmabugg489** on Mon Oct 19, 2009 1:05 pm

whoa serious red flags going on here.
1. get out and stay somewhere else for awhile
2.get yourself some help please.and maybe some couple's therapy for both of you.
3.who cares about "rules" self harming is dangerous and you could end up dying.

by **Ang2008193** on Mon Oct 19, 2009 1:05 pm

I know people who used to do this to themselves. You need to seek professional help. So, does your husband! Don't cut yourself!

by **Holz_coupe_888546** on Mon Oct 19, 2009 1:05 pm

Trying my best not to be judgemental or anything..

To be honest i think it was just the influence of alcohol. Have the 2 of u sat down and had a talk about what was said. When under the influence of alcohol everyone craves attension - Therefore bringing up things like this.

I think that you both should cut down on the level of alcohol intake in order to keep your relationship healthy!

by **CathyC559** on Mon Oct 19, 2009 1:06 pm

Okay.

LEAVE HIM.

You and your baby are not safe with this guy.

I have been a self harmer and there are no "rules". It's all illness for chrissakes!

My brother is bi-polar and a self harmer and he occasionally has psychotic episodes - and this sounds like one of those - which are dangerous and unpredictable.

Please, please, please think of your baby's safety, even if you are not bothered about your own.

by **KourtneyM** on Mon Oct 19, 2009 1:08 pm

First, you need to get away from him and keep yourself safe. Then you need to get help. If you are pregnant than talk to your doctor about getting help. They should be able to direct you to the right place to get the help you need. I wish I knew what city and state you lived in so I could look up online for you some clinics that will help you with the things you need help with. good luck.

by **Jury** on Mon Oct 19, 2009 1:10 pm

This is your life journey not ours. Asking the public is asking for trouble and your already in enough. You know well that you need to get professional help. For now your cutting, whats next? What are you going to do if the baby cries?

by **Greg265** on Mon Oct 19, 2009 1:12 pm

I would stop trying to bring a child in to a world where both the mother and the father are having mental problems and get some help fixing the problems facing me right here and now.
Children learn from their parents behavior, so if you do not do something about your problems to make them better the child will not be better of.

by **Zara-Jade** on Mon Oct 19, 2009 1:31 pm

That's completely out of order. He had absolutely no right to say any of those things to you. Self-harm is an expression of pain. Cutting deep is NOT a good thing and there are no rules to self-harming. You need to have words with him. Tell him he was out of order and make him realise that what he did was hurtful and cruel. You might not be self-harming anymore but that does not give him (or anyone else) the right to say these things. I know that if my partner ever said anything like this I would be extremely angry with them.

Don't feel ashamed of yourself, honey. You have no reason too. Your husband, on the other hand, should, and if he were my husband, I'd make him grovel before forgiving him.

questions on self harm and mental health?