questions on self harm and mental health?

[xxxx180]

First thing I think you should do is try to convince your husband that it is not his fault and that you can't help doing it when tension builds up in your body. Tell him that his getting angry about it just makes the matter worse. Tell him that he should ignore your self harming because it is your problem alone, just as his drinking is his problem and you should ignore it if you can, that is,if he doesn't get abusive when drunk. My guess is that your life has been tough ever since you were little. Yes, you need professional help if you can afford it. It sounds like having a baby might cause you to stop the cutting.

[SilentAngel]

Im going to tell you my personal advice, it may not be helpful but just want you to keep it in mind. Firstly i am very sorry to hear that you had a still born, i know it is hard to recover from. I dont think cutting yourself was the best option, but you took that root. And im very happy to hear that you have stopped after finding out you were pregnant, well done :D Okay now to the main part, I do believe that your husband may have gone too far, he doesnt know the pain you were in and he will never know. My best advice is not to leave him just after a drunkin experience, i know this sounds crazy but you will need him for support later down the road. This advice is only based on one incident while he was drinking. I think you should have a one on one conversation with him explaining how hurt you were from this incident and that he should never bring up the past (the past, that you dont want to bring up anymore *cutting*). It will help you start to regain confidence and reassurance with yourself to help you recover from the stil born. If he has done this on a numberous accounts, then perhaps you should think about maybe moving out.
There are no rules to cutting, it all depends on the person really. Its not a good idea, and it does effect everyone who knows you do it, like your husband so keep that in mind. It may help talkin to a physcologist about it, and sweetheart your too beautiful to be hurting yourself. There are tons of people who love you and are willing to help if you ever feel the need to start it again. Well thats my advice LD hope it kind of helped with your situation, and yet again im very sorry that this happened to you, but i promise you it will get all better eventually :D

best of luck becca xxx

[psychmajorletmehelpu]

i cut too
and please dont listen to your husband there are no rules and what he is doing is basically abusing you so please get out and go somewhere safe

in the mean time here are a couple sites which have forums on cutting
http://selfhelp.yuku.com
http://www.recoveryourlife.com

[waterfordgoddess]

There are no "rules" for self harming.. he needs to really grow up.
You did cut as deep as you needed to, just because it wasn't as deep as what he did.
I really think he needs help, breaking up a razor and telling you to cut is not normal.. I really think he needs to get help!
its good to see that you have given up since you found out you are pregnant, I hope that if you do start again that you will go to a therapist, self harming can be really hard to stop, and sometimes the urges get too much. so please if you do start again or even come near to it, go talk to someone.
What would I do? I would like to think I would leave him, but that is easy to say when your looking into the situation isn't it?

I hope you stay safe hun, and good luck with the pregnancy!

[MAVERICK228]

i did such things to myself LONG TIME AGO. for me i was the drink , i am 37 years sober in AA so if i can help please email me or ask him to see Doctor or go to a AA meeting address web under AA GOOD LUCK

[phillipb590]

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[tattyhead65]

Although I've self-harmed before, I'm not really qualified to give advice. I can recommend some useful websites though.

http://dailystrength.org - mostly for support for fellow sufferers but some professional advice too.
http://www.nshn.co.uk - I didn't find this one very beneficial but it's worth looking, you never know.
http://www.befrienders.org/index.asp - possibly the best one for practical advice. It provides the Samaritans phone number - 08457 909090 - but it takes a little looking for.

Good luck with this - I hope things improve for you.