Is this a good method to keep your kids respectful?

by **Unknowen** on Fri Oct 23, 2009 8:31 pm

I'm not a mom or expecting yet, but we are planning on having a baby and we were wondering what some good methods for keeing the kid very respectful even during the terrible twos. I was thinkin something like making a chart and everytime the kid says please and thankyou, cleans up their toys and is very nice all day I'll put a sticker on the the chart for every good thing they do and all of the stickers add up to $1 and at the end of the month I'll take the kid out with all the money they got for being good to get a toy or whatever they want.

Woops I ment every sticker is worth $1 and lets say every day all month they were good I'd give them $30 to spend on a toy

I was also thinking if they were being a brat or being mean that day I'd take away half a sticker and then that sticker would only be 50 cents.

by **pdooma023** on Fri Oct 23, 2009 8:38 pm

Kids that young have no concept of money.

They're excited about stickers though.

It's fine to have a plan on how to keep kids disciplined. But be prepared to be flexible with that plan. What works in theory doesn't always work in practice. And what works for one child doesn't always work for another.

by **BeeR036** on Fri Oct 23, 2009 8:38 pm

It's not a bad idea for "chores" BUT I don't think you should have to pay your kids to teach them to be "respectful"

by **Sher-Royce** on Fri Oct 23, 2009 8:49 pm

I worked in the at a day care with 18 month olds and two year olds for a year and half and have learned that children learn by observation. You can also sing songs that relate to what you want them to do. Another tip is be CONSISTANT! If you do the same thing and say the same thing over and over and over again, regardless of what type of child it is they will get the hang of it. To get the kids to clean up I sang the Barney clean up song and rewarded them with a sticker or a high five. I would say please and thank you til I turned blue in the face. They even learned to say yes mam and no mam. Also be careful about saying no. Try to use other words like you may not, or no touchy, unh uh, because once they learn no they will run with it forever. As far as the money they are too young to understand but it does not hurt for you to explain it to them.

by **ElismommyRosie136** on Fri Oct 23, 2009 8:54 pm

I have to agree with BeeR on this one, no rewards for being respectful, it should be expected! But your idea is great when they help with things around the house. My 2-year old says "thank you" all the time, something he just heard us saying. It really isn't hard for (even toddlers) to learn to be respectful, if they have parents that model that behavior :)

by **Greeneyed697** on Fri Oct 23, 2009 11:36 pm

sounds more like bribery

Is this a good method to keep your kids respectful?