is it wrong to get jealous if my girlfriend spends more time with more friends and tells them she loves them?

[Chad]

My girlfriend of 1 year is looking for more friends, it makes me jealous why cant she spend some time with me? she tells this girl she barely knows she loves her more than her friend loves her that annoys me because we use to do that now she does it with sum1 she doesnt know is it wrong to get jealous?

she also ditches me for her friends and totally ignores me for them too. her last bestfriend drove me crazy she never shut up and she kept slutting around with all the soldiers on base this new girl is no different except she does drugs and im not talking light drugs like weed but hard stuff. also my girlfriend and i never get to see each other and she would rather hangout with sum1 she doesnt even know than me, and this one boy thats her "friend" tried to kiss her idk what to do

[LK266]

No need to get jealous.... that's just girls being girls.

[eye4neye]

Is she spiritual like meaning that she loves everyone or does she not know what love really is? Your question is confusing.

[OneDay866]

Well, I would not be jealous of her telling friends she loves them, maybe over not spending more time with you though. Tell her you want to start spending more time together.

Time to get a new girlfriend, dump her she is not wanting to be in a relationship or she would not act like that. Find someone who respects you and wants to be with you.

[mightymouse203]

no, just try to give her some space to figure out what she wants and dont push her about it because you'll wind up pushing her away. you guys have been in a relationship for a year now, she just wants to broaden her horizons a little. just give her some time, i know its hard, but after a year, for a lot of people they are ready to find something new no matter what that is. in her case friends, but by pushing her and getting mad about what she is doing to them and not you will only push her away faster. so just try to be supportive until she figures out what she wants and what she is doing.

good luck. hope i helped

[wayfaroutthere502]

You can't possess a person's love, because love divided is love multiplied. The only limit to how many people you can love comes down to how much time you have to spend with them. If she didn't have love for other people, it would show that she has a limited capacity for love. When your girlfriend loves other people, they love her, and you get the benefit of their love at times too. If she doesn't love other people, then all you have is each other. Since she does, you not only have each other, but anyone else in the world who loves her. In addition, a person like that can usually make a new friend readily, so even strangers will become your friends if you need a hand or even just a good conversation in a place where you are a stranger. This can be great--unless. . .

If she isn't spending time with you, is she just looking for some other people to be friends with, or is she trading you in (are these girlfriends, and are they going manhunting)? If you are just upset because instead of spending all her time with you she leaves you on your own a night or two a week, then you need to quit being jealous. If it seems she only has time for you one night a week, then you have every reason to be jealous. (After your edit: does your girl like coke but can't afford it? If so, try and get her to see the problem and work on it, and if she refuses, leave her before she spends your money on it.)

No, why don't you go with her when she hangs out with her new friends? You should be welcome. You can put up with a little girl talk so that she can have a girl to talk to. If she doesn't want you to hang with her new friends, then its time for you to find some new friends of your own or look up your old ones, because she's on her way out the door.

[purt0073]

No its not wrong. i would be really jealous. i think you should tell her exactly what you wrote here and what you feel. If shes ignoring you shes not "broadening her horizons" like that tool somewhere above me said. shes ignoring you plain and simple. People often change and become like who they hang around so her spending alot of time with this drug junkie really isnt good for her. if youve been dating for a year your communication should be pretty good. so overall talk to her about it. and worrying about being jealous its really natural.