Is it okay to stop talking to your parents completely when they divorce?

by **Electro-chick** on Sat May 09, 2009 5:52 pm

I'm 19.

My parents divorced when I was 13.

They did not abuse each other, just by the end of their marriage they didn't get along and no longer loved each other.

Once the divorce was final I literally told them:

"I can't believe I have two sorry excuses for human beings as you for parents. I have nothing to say to either of you for as long as you both shall live."

I haven't spoken to them since. It's broken both of their hearts and they've both cried but I don't care, they really hurt me.

I don't blame myself and never have for the divorce, to the contrary... I BLAMED THEM.

They destroyed the one thing that was supposed to last forever. So I'm simply returning the favor of a LIFE LONG COMMITMENT... and that's never to speak to them again, even if I see them in person and a family reunions.

Is that so wrong?

by **JohnHolmes745** on Sat May 09, 2009 5:54 pm

no, you can do that

by **TheLuke882** on Sat May 09, 2009 5:55 pm

No, not at all, you'll only lead a life of misery and regret.

by **iheartme** on Sat May 09, 2009 5:56 pm

I know your angry, but god forbid what if something happened to them? NEVER leave with someone on a bad note giving the feeling that you hate them, because if something happens you will really beat yourself up. Never hold grudges because you never know what will happen..

by **lola1oo** on Sat May 09, 2009 5:56 pm

yes, you should really forgive and forget. The marriage didn't work out and you should really try to deal with that. I know it's tough, but you need to let it go. You seriously haven't talked to them in 7 years?!?!?!??!! If you haven't, you're a really bad grudge holder!

by **Dave339** on Sat May 09, 2009 5:56 pm

it happens. this probably had nothing to do with you

by **BabeHeart638** on Sat May 09, 2009 5:56 pm

You sound very immature for a 19 yr old, but as your life progresses and you understand more about relationships you'll "get it".

If you don't want to speak to them, then don't. Someone who would judge them negatively for choices they made to help improve their lives, isn't worth wasting time on. Once you grow up, chances are you'll be apologizing...wonder if they'll accept it or turn their back on you as you did them. Karma can be a b*tch, you know?

by **mrs_G316** on Sat May 09, 2009 5:57 pm

It's within your rights...but it's extremely childish.

Their marriage and divorce is THEIR business, THEIR decision. If they were happier apart, then they chose the right path. Would you rather they stayed married and MISERABLE? Because that's really selfish.

I hope you grow up soon, and realize how foolish you are acting. Life doesn't always go as we wish it to, and you need to accept that.

by **Sarah733** on Sat May 09, 2009 5:57 pm

yes. divorce happens, there are almost more divorces than happy, long marriages these days. people tend to fall out of love and if it's better for them to be apart than be together then so be it. my parents stayed together and they fight constantly and can't stand each other, they stayed together for the kids but i almost wish they hadn't. you need to be mature and supportive. you'll regret shutting your family out later in life. and your kids will want to have known their grandparents, you shouldn't take that away from them either.

by **mysterygirl68922** on Sat May 09, 2009 5:57 pm

Really i think that is mean! I can't last that long without talking to my parents when they are crying right in front of me I couldn't stand to see them like that. I think that that is really cruel how can you do that to them, sometimes relationships don't work out and you have to go separate ways and anyway would you rather them stay together and hate eachother no offense but that is so SELFISH!

Is it okay to stop talking to your parents completely when they divorce?