Is it okay to stop talking to your parents completely when they divorce?

[suki]

That's a little dramatic...and weird.
How can you have not spoken to either of them for that long? You seem very immature, this kind of thing happens a lot to a lot of kids. Sometimes people just stop loving each other and they become miserable together. So if they are able to survive independently from each other, they break up. I'm 19 too and i could never see myself cutting my parents out of my life for something like that. Family is too important to me. What a lonely life you'll lead without your family, i feel sorry for you really.

[hmminteresting008]

are you fucking stupid? my mum and dad divorced when i was 8 and i didnt see my dad for 6 years they may of hurt me but how did you think i felt when i didnt have a dad for 6 years? my mum didn't marry so i didint even have a father figure? you think you got it bad well you got another thing coming you get your arse over to there house you stupid bitch

[Clownfish870]

I think it is. Marriage is a bit of a gamble. They loved each other at some point and decided to get married because of it. Marriage is a lot of work and sometimes things just don't work out. Either the problems become too big to deal with or the love just goes away. Either way, it's not their fault either. Things just happen and people's feelings do change. If you parents just fell out of love, you shouldn't blame them and stop speaking to them. You are probably the one reminder they have of the good times they spent together. They love you and it's killing them that you won't let them be a part of your life. Honestly, I think you are selfish and you will definitely regret it. I hope one day you will fall in love with someone and then have it end the same way your parents did so you can see that it does happen and that you shouldn't be so harsh on them for trying something that just didn't work out in the end.

[IndyGirl445]

Yes.
You're wrong.
They're just people.
Once upon a time they were two STRANGERS who started a relationship and it fell apart. It happens. You've seen it happen to OTHER PEOPLE with your own two eyes. And, until two PERFECT PEOPLE are born, it will continue to happen until the end of time.
The parent/child relationship is something entirely different AND YOU DAMN WELL KNOW IT, Girl.
You're angry.
You have the right to be.
Something you thought would be a certainty in your life CHANGED.
But, the thing to do is get some therapy and find a way to deal with it.
You don't THROW AWAY LOVE...
You can't RUN AWAY FROM PAIN -- or you'll be running your whole life.
Find someone to talk to, Honey.
And then call your parents.
Just because they don't love each other DOES NOT mean they don't love you: THEY DO!!!
xoxoxoxoxo

[AuntieP404]

I think you are doing a serious disservice to yourself. Just because they didn't love one another, doesn't mean that they didn't love you.

If you don't talk to them, how can they ever show you how much they care and want to be there for you.

You have punished them dramatically and they know how much they hurt you. And, I know you don't care, but they were both hurt with the divorce also - for reasons unrelated to you.

Life is difficult and having people around who care about you unconditionally (your parents) sure helps in the long run.

[Smitty]

Yes. It is wrong or naive to be that way. Understand something. People grow away from each other their human it happens. But they're still your parents. And you still love them. Holding on to grudges makes you a bitter and angry person. Believe me I know. So please find it in your heart to forgive them and enjoy them while you can. Tomorrow is never promised. I really hope this helps you. God Bless and good luck!!

[whatareyou910]

They must be sorry excuse for human beings they a little brat that will not speak to them.

[cuteredhead]

You cant be mad at them for not staying in love,

You are 19 that doesn't make you an adult lol you sure aren't acting like one.

Your acting like they did something bad to you.They didn't the did what they thought was best for them.

And the probably also thought it was best for you so they wouldn't be fighting in front of you.

YOu was 13 im sure you don't know everything about their problems.

[i_ate_sponge_bob887]

Yeah that is wrong.

It is also completely selfish, your parents were trying to make their lives a bit better and you are punishing them for it, you expect them to stay in a relationship that wasn't working or making them happy because that's what YOU want.