If a husband wants a divorce but the wife doesnt what can she do...?

by **redhead27335** on Fri May 08, 2009 11:49 pm

Ok... first off, if the woman fully knows he is blaming her for his own problems then why stay married?

Sounds as if this woman wants to stay married because she thinks he will change..... not likely.

Unless he has PTSD, then she should seek a professional for counseling.

Other than that... in the U.S. you are NOT obligated to be married to anybody. Everyone has the right to divorce if they want to. Its out of her control if he wants a divorce.

by **Aussiemum304** on Fri May 08, 2009 11:53 pm

Counseling.

If he came back a changed man from being deployed then the military should offer counseling.

Something obviously happened over there.....

Dont give up yet.

by **tincan62045** on Sat May 09, 2009 3:22 am

nothing new, war has changed many a man coming back to the home, talk to wife's if u know any, of wars from the past, ur understanding of this seems wonder full and very supportive. maybe go to a vfw meeting and mingle with the other wife's, good luck

by **ubu145** on Sat May 09, 2009 4:02 am

If a person really wants a divorce you cannot stop them.

by **iyamacog286** on Sat May 09, 2009 6:00 am

Perhaps she can contact his superior. Being in a war zone, will surely change him a great deal. He may need some strong medical (mental) attention. Perhaps he could be feeling very guilty that he survived, and many of his company didn't. It's hard to say what exactly he's seen & how he's been affected. Maybe even speak directly with his attny. She doesn't have anything to lose. Pull out all the stops. In the end, it may be that she won't have a choice in the matter. In the meantime, she should NOT sign ANYTHING......

by **lucylocket7258063** on Sat May 09, 2009 9:49 am

If his problems surfaced when he came back from Iraq, sounds like he needs to go into counseling...His problems have nothing to do with you but he is taking his angry and frustrations out on you, you are the only one around so that is why he does it...Try to talk to him and get him the therapy and help he needs and maybe you can save your marriage.

by **Kaia202** on Sat May 09, 2009 11:53 am

All you can do is postpone the inevitable. I don't know of any state in the US where, sooner or later, he won't be granted a divorce. It may cost him alot, and take some time, but it will happen.

You can request he go to counseling with you, and that he get counseling to work on his issues from being there. You can't MAKE him go to either. All you can do is express that you are willing to work on making things good.

There is no way to really stop the divorce in the US. It'll either happen because you agree or because some judge decides it's gone on long enough.

I only have one question...I know you feel Iraq changed him, and you're probably right...but if he has himself convinced that he doesn't want to be married to you any more....what makes you think you can change that?

If a husband wants a divorce but the wife doesnt what can she do...?