I just lost my first love. How can I cope with this?

by **Kate** on Wed Feb 04, 2009 5:54 am

Me and my first love met when I was 15 and he was 17 at work. The second we met we connected and about a month or less later we got together. We fell in love pretty quickly. About 3 months into the relationship I gave my virginity to him and he gave his to me. 8 months down the track he turned 18 and I had turned 16 prior to then, and this is when it began to fall apart. I became paranoid about him becoming 18 and wanting a girl his own age to be able to go out with, but I was being stupid. If you met him or any of his friends you know that he would never do anything like that and that he loved me completely. I guess we both were too young to handle it. We begun to fight a lot and we were both becoming extremely stressed from the relationship (he told me this but I love him too much to admit it) and he had the strength to end it, which I respect him for because I could never have done it. When he ended it he was crying because we both still love each other but know we can't handle it anymore. He took me to a spot on the beach and we cried in each others arms knowing we couldn't see each other again for a long time or it would be too hard. He is a good man and treated me respectfully for the whole 10 months we were together and never cheated on me. I know for both of us it will take a long time to lose feelings for each other, if I ever do, but I need help coping with just getting through the day as im in year 12, and being able to walk past the place at work where we first kissed and not fall apart. I believe this and so does other people that if we met each other when we were older we would have got married, but I know I need to put that out of my mind and try to accept reality. Can anyone help me or give me some tips as to how just get through the day?

by **tecssteel** on Wed Feb 04, 2009 5:54 am

Start all over again....

by **jsforexblogspotcom4665** on Wed Feb 04, 2009 5:55 am

hang out with ur friends. that always help. try not to talk about him since its over.

by **raynestar3** on Wed Feb 04, 2009 5:56 am

When he ended it he was crying because we both still love each other but know we can't handle it anymore. False, if he did, this would not have happened. He is a good man and treated me respectfully for the whole 10 months we were together and never cheated on me. False. Not if he put up that act. ... could go on and on...dont lie to yourself...we all make mistakes

by **crapinchuk143** on Wed Feb 04, 2009 5:57 am

Same thing just happened to me =[ sorry but I don't know how to cope :S email me if you want to talk some more x

I just lost my first love. How can I cope with this?