I don't know how to have sex...?

[SF]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little more than a year and we are really in love and have physical chemistry when we kiss and do foreplay but for some reason sex just doesn't feel that good for either of us. I am pretty sure we are moving the right way so what are we doing wrong?

[MrsS818]

Watch some porn.

[bealzebub963]

Are you sure it's going in the right hole?

[mushroom]

experiment, it takes time to learn what you like
also talk with your partner if you find something you like tell them

[texasgirl2u477]

You are trying to hard to please that you think about it and are making it worse than if you two just find your comfort zone and place and it has not happened yet, probably never will who knows . But are either one of you protected ? If not then why not?

[sirsmokealot]

he ain't hitting it right..c'mon over i'll show you.

[USMCwife307]

Everyone sucks in the beginning! Trust me.... no one is just automatically good at it the first while. It takes some time to get used to and to get it right. Dont ever do anything if it is hurting you, but ease your way into it.

[parker_n_mj218]

Sounds like you need to watch a porno together, then see if you ARE moving the right way.

[cali745]

tyr these i jus looked up for you...

1. Keep your panties on
Wearing underwear can really hot up the session. It can be pleasurable torture to play with each other, teasing and stroking through the fabric. It acts like foreplay where you are building up the anticipation, so that when you finally do have skin-on-skin contact, it'll be that much more explosive and exciting.

2. Warm breath on your nape
Nothing arouses you more than the warm breath of your partner on your nape - it?s the only sound in the room and is very erotic. In no time will you be a ready and willing partner.

3. Do it movie-style
Every Hollywood movie has one scene where the couple is doing it standing up - against a wall, stairs, behind a door, etc. So what is stopping you from doing it too? Not only will such a quickie have your adrenaline rush up, it will make you agile on your feet! Pick a moment, but don't tell him about it and pounce. A hot, wet kiss and the urgency will have him reacting in a way he?s never done before.

4. Fast and furious
Jump into the shower with him for a quick, hot make-out session. Change out of your cotton panties into a lacy thong. You could also cuddle up behind him while he is preparing breakfast. Whisper in his ear a play-by-play of exactly what it is you plan to do to him tonight. Tell him about your hot dream.

5. Prop shop
Anything can set the mood, so why not go right ahead and try one of these out - board games, delicious food in the bedroom and toys for the tub!

6. Shy gal
Some women may be shy during sex and when you ask them what is it that they would like, they may get nervous and feel it is too demanding to state. What you can do is to try broaching the subject with your partner in a different setting, where you can express your desires in a more relaxed way. How about cuddling up to him while watching a sexy scene on TV and whispering if you could try that out! Your partner will love you for it, so don?t worry please.

7. Be a wild child
There?s something deliciously dangerous about doing it in a non-private area, which could be on the beach or a park, a lift or even a restaurant restroom. You may need to be careful with insects and itchy grass if you are in a park area, and sand is very abrasive so you may want to have a blanket handy. Be prepared for embarrassment if you do have an unwanted visitor. Also please note, there are laws against indecent exposure in public places, so if you care caught, have an explanation ready!

8. Light of your life
Turn off the lights and take a little torch. Guide the glow to areas of your body that you want him to lick or rub. Start with your neck, ears, nipples - go wherever you want him to explore. Even if it's a nonsexual area like your back, he has to pay attention to that area until you stop shining the flashlight on it.

9. Women love their bodies
Women who enjoy sex are comfortable with touching themselves, as that?s how they learn about their own bodies, what they like or don?t and how they can reach orgasm quickly or slowly depending on their mood. For women, there are other ways of having an orgasm and not just by having sex, and they control their erotic destiny: they know they can come whenever they want, and that makes them more confident and relaxed lovers.

10. Say ?no? to routine
Stash that remote away before you leave for work so that when you return, your partner is unlikely to find it. Have some we-time - talk about your day, walk your pets together and have a leisurely drink. After dinner, serve him a special dessert after the kids go to bed - but tell him that you two must feed each other with one spoon. Add a flirty ?you lose if...? to the game and watch how your evening pattern takes a stimulating change.

11. Old school of thought: Both partners should be equally active in bed
New school of thought: It's absolutely fine to handover all control or take charge, eitherway.

As it is all about sexual satisfaction and pleasure, why don?t you decide which way the wind will blow? Your man will love it if you take control! However, it doesn't mean that every time you make love it has to be exactly 50/50 score. Sometimes one of you is just too beat or burned-out to have the energy for a night of vigorous sex, but you can still lie back and have some fun.

12. Work on yourself
Excite yourself before the romp with candles, music and wine as you have a better chance of peaking repeatedly, if you are already aroused. The stronger your sexual energy before someone touches you, the easier it is to have one orgasm and even multiples.

13. Ditch the time slot
Who ever said that you have to have sex only at night? It?s a restricting notion, one that will have you feeling tired and dying to hit the pillow. Say Richa, 34, ?Our best sex is around seven-thirty, when my husband and I both get home from work. We are so charged that just seeing him still look handsome makes my pulses race.

[Khmersoldierswifeyy]

HaHa, well maybe your just not doing it right. and he might not know what hes doing. Just watch some porn or something and learn that way. lol i mean the first time isnt going to be so great, but once you or him knows how and what to do. then i'll promise you, you'll have funn. lol