I don't know how to have sex...?

[TonyD574]

go to your local bookstore and but some books on different positions. they got some really interesting ones and it brings a whole new defination to the word sex, its just not a word anymore, its like a dessert. lol make sure before you try it out though, visit a adult novelty store and buy a couple of exotic flavoring stuff that you both can enjoy.

[heather552]

Nothing at all. Eventually you will find that whats happens next will just come naturally. Who do you think showed Adam and Eve. No it wasn't the Snake, they just fiddled and diddled and low and behold,do i need to say more.

[rockindel1]

NOTHING!!! at all.. sounds like your parents raised you with a moral code that is interfering with your desire to go to the next level..
you are to both be congratulated, dont make this a barrier in your relationship, use it as a stepping stone to make your relationship stronger.
one other thing if you both feel it is a barrier , there are a lot of councilling services that are available through schools , community groups, and churches, this isnt the best place for interpersonal relationship advise.
good luck with the growth of your relationship. To both of you

[tp861]

Perhaps you are one who doesn't enjoy sex? there are those who just don't and that's ok. But if you truly want to know, there is literally hundreds of sex ways, Book, internet search and perhaps porn or chat groups can direct you to new ways. Really it is about what turns you on. It may just be you and your boyfriend haven't found the right combo yet.
Now research has also shown mentally you can prevent anything. If your not mentally right with it, it may not produce the right moment, and you may want to consider that.

[God181]

There could be a couple different things causing your problem.
The first is vaginal dryness. You might not realize it during the foreplay because he may be performing oral sex. If that is the case, maybe the addition of a sex lube to your night will help you out.

Another question that comes to mind is if your clitoris is being stimulated enough. Does your partner ever focus on your clitoris during sex? Some women find that their clitoris is not very sensitive at all. This makes it a lot more uncomfortable during sex. The best way I know of to get past that is to stimulate your g-spot. Yahoo or Google images can diagram where that is if it happens to be your problem.

One more idea is to try new things for each of you. Go wild. Try anal, maybe a slight bit of pain if either is up to it. Roleplaying can be fun too. Sometimes it's hard to broach this subject so maybe that one guy's answer of watching porn could help. Rent a movie that involves roleplaying and in the middle maybe say something, "that looks fun. Wanna try it?"

Good luck!

[DebraR140]

Hi SF,
Your question is . I don't know how to have sex. Read what you said: (I am pretty sure we are moving the right way so what are we doing wrong)? What you are doing wrong is trying to have sex. Since you don't know how or what to do. That is a big sign that you shouldn't be trying. You two are letting your hormones lead you down the wrong path. This thing you are doing is going to make you cry one day. You had better stop while you are ahead. It won't be on him it will be on you, though you both will be responsible for your actions. You are not ready and you don't need to let your emotion cause you to act out cause you hear the word love. Love or not you will be sorry. Keep trying eventually you will get it right and you are going to wish you hadn't.