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[-ashlee]

I thought he was the one but obviously not. He said im asking too much from him. Even though he kept telling me he wants to be with me forever. He lied though. He said he can't do this anymore and has finished with me for the 5th time in these 8months. He means it this time. I have been on the phone crying to him for the past two hours or so. I have nagged and nagged for him back and he says no. When i started crying (i was so stressed) he said "ok ill get back with you". I thought he meant it but 5mins later he was like "lets just be friends". He doesn't get it. I CANT be "just friends" because when he gets a new girlfriend it will ruin me forever. He was like "why do you have to like me for"? So basically hes trying to say..f**k off and like someone else instead of me. He said to me "why are you so serious about me?" So i asked him does he not take me serious and hes like no. He said "im not serious serious about you like we are going to get married or nothing". I said it could happen one day and you know what he did? He laughed his f*ckinq a*s off at me. I got so upset. Does this make sense to you? "I like you Ashlee more than a friend but less than a girlfriend. Can't we be a couple but not boyfriend and girlfriend?" Wtf that supposed to mean. He is messing so much with my head. Only last night he was saying he loves me and today he doesn't like me anymore. Im really upset. He said we get on better as friends and yes hes right, we do. But it will kill me when he says he has a new girlfriend. Ok so i told him to forget about me, he just said bye. He doesn't even say no don't do this he just says bye to me all the time. He says "do what you want". He just doesn't care. Anyway i told him to just not bother me anymore and give me time to get over him then maybe i can think about being his friend. He was like yeah ok bye and hung up on me. I was sad yeah but i didn't really feel that upset. I didn't feel nothing, i wasnt happy sad or nothing, i just felt normal. So i thought that mabye this was for the best. Then you know what he does? He texts me about an hour later saying "give me a week and no less than a week ok? I need to think about this, idk if i wanna go back with you or not. Just give me a week ok so don't bother me in this week ok?"

Im so confused. Im down and he is messing me around. He knows all he has to do is click his fingers and im back running to him. He can to but idk how to say no to him. I love him so much :(

Should i go back to him if he decides to stay with me at the end of this week? Because i know he will. But all this will happen again after that anyway. I don't want to go back to him, i wanna find someone who actually cares for me but that seems impossible right now because im in love with this guy. I can't just not talk to him for a day its so hard. How can i stop myself? I keep myself busy but i just get moody with everyone and start to cry over him :( He used me just for sex too. He got what he wanted and i asked him did he just use me for sex and he laughed and said no. I just dont know anymore :( Will i ever get over him?

[Callie109]

Well first........don't bug him about it. that makes him see how much he has over you.

Tomorrow, just be casual with him. Talk to other guys and dress GREAT.

I've had this happen to me too.

If he text you, answer in NO more than 10 words.

He will see that you don't need him......and guys always want you back when they see that.

[Katie132]

No ma don't take him back, he's just trying to confuse you he really doesn't know what he wants and he doesn't want to get in a serious relationship because he doesn't know what he wants. So just take some time to get over him and start off fresh and find somebody better =]

[domino]

Of course you will sweetie, you just had the unfortunate experience to get involved with a very immature self involved person that likes to play mind games, and to boot he is very cruel, he is playing with your emotions whenever the mood strikes him. You already know what the right thing to do is, you know he is not sincere, you know he is not worth being friends with, much less boyfriend material, you know he is not a very nice person by laughing at you..You are just going to lower your self esteem and self worth by giving him the time of day..Don't you dare call him! why give him the ego boost of knowing you can't stop thinking of him..Don't ever call him again that in itself will drive him crazy, then he will start thinking of you, wondering why did she just stop..that's human nature. Try to not hang out any place where you might run into him, do not call. and be around people that make you feel good about yourself because it does sound like you need a good dose of self esteem..start loving yourself and never get involved with people like him..there are too many good guys out there that would never treat you like that..good luck..