Do you sometimes have trouble accepting help when it's offered?

by **Gabrielle** on Fri Oct 23, 2009 7:19 pm

Especially when it comes to your kids?

Why do we do that?

by **HappyMotherandWife772** on Fri Oct 23, 2009 7:25 pm

I do sometimes. I try to be as open and willing to take the help/advice offered to me but it is hard. Even harder when it comes to my daughter.
I think I personally do that because I feel like if i am having to ask for help then that means I failed. I don't like feeling like I failed anymore than I like someone offering the help/advice.

by **MelsBells832** on Fri Oct 23, 2009 7:25 pm

Not so much anymore. I think it's because mothers put too much pressure on themselves to be perfect. And also, no one can do it like we can ;-)

by **Elizabeth144** on Fri Oct 23, 2009 7:27 pm

Yes, because I feel like a charity case.

by **Kay3306** on Fri Oct 23, 2009 7:35 pm

Well with advice that I didnt ask for, I let people say what they want and rarely actually use any single thing they said. I have pretty good common sense and can figure alot out on my own.

But as far as physical help...well I've never been offered any kind of help. Like what? Babysitting or something?..
No one is directly in my life, it's just me and my son.

by **BYOB456** on Fri Oct 23, 2009 7:39 pm

I never get help, so when it IS offered, I graciously accept.

by **LalahsMommy128** on Fri Oct 23, 2009 7:50 pm

Yes. I think it is because we are prideful, or atleast I am. I don't want anyone to help me with my kids unless it's needed like needing a babysitter or something. I don't want anyone to ever think I am not capable of raising my daughter on my own.

by **MistydaweMBW641** on Fri Oct 23, 2009 9:10 pm

Yes most of the time. Recently my husband got laid off. My husband and I were planning a 2 week long family vacavtion to New York City. When we called to tell my best friend that we won't be going and we'd be waiting a year she was pretty upset (she has not seen us in 3 years) so she offred to pay for our airfare. At first I said no but I remembered that it might be harder for her not to see us then for her to spend $900 on some plane tickets.
There was also a time with the same friend when I offtred to make mortgage payments for a whole year when her 5 year old was battling leukemia it took her 5 months to finally agree to it, it must have been much harder for her to accept my help.

I think it's a matter of pride, I think people hate feeling needy.

Do you sometimes have trouble accepting help when it's offered?