Do all divorced men put women in the same category as their ex-wife?

by **mizzhollywood28** on Fri May 08, 2009 7:42 pm

i mean, how long does it take a man to get over what she did to him?

by **MichaelT612** on Fri May 08, 2009 7:46 pm

I'm sure every situation is different. Most divorced men that I know seem to be fine with women and go on to re-marry.

by **i_ate_sponge_bob398** on Fri May 08, 2009 7:47 pm

Some men never get over it. Just like some women never get over what their ex-husband did to them.

by **Shannon641** on Fri May 08, 2009 7:47 pm

No, and he never does.
With a lot of painful work he can undo some of the damage.

by **KJ644** on Fri May 08, 2009 7:47 pm

no, but when i go cruising on back country roads in my Supra Twin Turbo, and glance over and see the cows in the roadside farms, i find myself looking for my ex wife somewhere in the group of cows.... and at the same time, when i flip through channels and see the hotties on 'girls gone wild' video commercials, i look for my current and forever wife. lol.

by **Itellitlikeitis418** on Fri May 08, 2009 7:49 pm

It takes as long as it takes for him to not talk about her while with you, and to not jump to conclusion when you are doing something. He may be tainted in his thought processing, and that is a cognitive behavior issue that he will need to be aware of, and fix it with conscious effort , frame by frame , if you will.

by **Kristiane-Cubicalninja028** on Fri May 08, 2009 7:50 pm

For the sake of so many divorced people, I hope not.

by **brwneyedgrl327** on Fri May 08, 2009 7:51 pm

Depends on the situation if it was a bad break up if there was alot of hurt involved, etc..

Men that were hurt just like women who get hurt tend to have scars from the relationship that they will never get over or take along time to get over..

My husbands x wife cheated on him.. and he's hypersensitive to it now.. he doesnt aquate me to her.. but he get nervous when things seem similiar in actions, words, etc..

But the longer we've been married the more secure he's gotten and realizes that he doesnt have to be so worried.. so it gets better as the trust is regained that they lost in women after being hurt..

by **MrsHeatherSchabby960** on Fri May 08, 2009 7:51 pm

When I met my husband, he had been divorced for 2 years, and he swore up and down he'd NEVER marry again.

We dated casually for a little bit, and then we were married 16 months after our first date. They change their mind for the right woman I guess.

I didn't go into the relationship with the mindset that I'd change him, though -- I went into it looking for someone to date casually and we just got serious.

by **Amarante722** on Fri May 08, 2009 7:52 pm

depends on what happened (cheating, fell out of love, arguments, etc.)

if ex-wife was mean then he might take longer to find someone else or try to find someone not like that

some do some don't

Do all divorced men put women in the same category as their ex-wife?