Do all divorced men put women in the same category as their ex-wife?

[discombobulated]

No, at least I don't think I do but then again I am really just enjoying being single again and have absolutely no real interest in a relationship anytime soon.

[mebo148]

I never have.

[rajachitre]

Does any person really forgets any trauma s/he suffers? Everybody wants to forget all wrong things which happened in the Life course. Divorce is a process in which a painful relation is severed by mutual consent on some terms(usually financial), so it is never "Got Over!" The Celebrities of Hollywood are the world class actors, so they hide their Emotions & it may be possible for them to act Otherwise in real life too!

[henryr]

I would never do that personally because it would mean that I would never give anyone a chance to do the things she didn't/couldn't.

I can't speak for anyone else but in my case I want no memory of my ex and wish she she never existed.

[NenaS210]

I think that both men and women spend a lot of time thinking about their exes and about what went wrong. And if things were really horrible or ended badly or bitterly, sure, chances are the person will be left with scars and painful memories.

My husband and I were both divorced when we got married, and I understand your post. His ex-wife and he had a ong and nasty divorce.... so of course he had a lot of baggage and emotional issues.

When we first started dating,I sometimes felt like I was paying for things she had done to him, you know? But it was part of the healing process....We talked about things.... and when I felt uncomfortable, or felt I was being judged unfaily, I would tell him so. And he got it. But it was not pleasant or easy at times.

You have to be very patient with this kind of thing...and not everyone has the kindness or patience it requires. Good luck.

[dk513]

Not all guys do that. I found a wonderful woman who was very different from my ex and married her. I forgot how good like could be.